“A moment of conscious triumph makes one feel that after this nothing will really matter; a moment of realized disaster makes one feel that this is the end of everything. But neither feeling is realistic, for neither event is really what it is felt to be.”
Good morning, friends! Troubled times are in the forecast so I hope you are the prepared type. Better safe than sorry, I say. Now, let’s get to it!
The modern mantra for mindfulness is to exist in the moment. (How’s that for alliteration?!) I’m all for mindfulness but moments aren’t everything. In fact, moments can be quite deceiving. Let’s take two illustrations. One person get’s a new job, a promotion, with a big pay raise. She thinks, “I’ve arrived now! My life is made!” Why? Because she’s having a good moment and thinks that all moments in the future will be the same or better. On the other side of town a gentleman has a setback; he lost his job. He feels, “I’m doomed. I’ll never amount to anything.” Why? Because he’s having a terrible moment and thinks that all moments in the future will be the same or worse. Guess what? Both of them are wrong. Completely wrong.
The challenge is to understand Future You. You know Future You, don’t you? It’s you in the future. Most of us don’t pay much attention to Future You. We give attention to Past You but mostly we are concerned about Present You. About the only time Future You comes into consideration is when Present You experiences some kind of extreme, either really great or really bad. Then we conclude, “Future Me will look exactly like this, today.” Poor Future You; we don’t treat her or him very well.
·Future You is not yet determined; it has a world of possibilities.
·Future You is influenced more by your next action than your last one.
·Future You is more like your imagination than your experience today.
As I write a big hurricane is trashing the Atlantic Ocean; forecasters warn of a North Carolina direct hit. I find little profit forecasting hurricanes. Smart forecasters talk about the “cone of possibility”, the wide area of possible outcomes for the hurricane, and every day even that “cone of possibility” changes! That’s life with Future You. The “cone of possibility” changes every day based on today’s actions and choices, not yesterday’s outcomes and experiences. So get to it! Forget about today’s highs and lows; they’re deceiving. Show some love to Future You and make positive, helpful choices today. Who knows where you’ll land?! Have a wonderful week.