“You’re more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.”
Good morning, friends! I hope you are all well today. With all the divisiveness in our culture today I’d like to think this e-mail is a healer, a weekly idea that brings people together, that doesn’t separate us into camps. With that prayerful thought, let’s get to it!
Think for a moment about the list of changes in your own life and/or circumstances you’ve been wanting to see for a while. I’ll play first. I’d like to get back to my health efforts. I’d like to be more intentional with a side project. I’d like to make a new friend sometime soon. I’d like to… well, I have plenty of “I’d like to’s”. Have you thought of any? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t. Young or old, we all do. So what are you doing with your “I’d like to’s”?
Well, if you’re common at all then you’re waiting for some kind of motivation. Let me let you in on a little secret, and pardon my language, please. Here it is: motivation is for suckers. That’s it. Motivation is for suckers. Motivation is simply another way of saying, “I’d like to… but I need something to get me going.” Time, money, opportunity, energy, something. Guess what? It’s never, ever, ever going to happen. Let’s take a minute now to grieve the passing of your excuses… That’s what motivation is, a premeditated excuse. I’ll pause… Now, let’s do something that works for you.
The author today is not unique to this idea. He’s simply the one I read most recently. The idea that is prevalent is that action leads to motivation, not the other way around. The challenge is to make yourself take first and second steps in the direction of your goal without “motivation”.
* Get out and move even if it’s uncomfortable and inconvenient.
* Contact someone and make a connection, even if there isn’t a reason.
* Do the thing you want to do even if you’re not so ready.
The author is not suggesting, nor am I advocating, “Fake it until you make it.” I’m not saying fake anything. I’m saying, “Be real. Be honest. Be courageous.” The first time I exercised I looked pathetic; the last time I exercised I was impressive. I didn’t exercise the first time because I had motivation. Far from it. I exercised the first time because I wanted a different reality for myself. I acted, and acted, and acted until the feeling began to emerge and then I was unstoppable. Maybe health isn’t your gig but you have your “I’d like to’s…” Do something today. And again tomorrow. And the next day, and the day after that. Eventually your actions will lead to the feelings you want and other people will marvel at your motivation! Be kind to them and tell them the secret and all the while enjoy the feeling you sought. I have faith in you! Have a wonderful week.