“Our minds are generally lazy and like to get rid of problems as quickly as possible, so they surround first ideas with a lot of positive chemicals to make us “fall in love” with them. Do not fall in love with your first idea. This relationship almost never works out.”
Bill Burnett and/or Dave Evans
Good morning, friends! I hope you celebrated Father’s Day well yesterday. It is a joyful day for many people and a painful day for a few but if seen as a day of healing and connection it has power. I hope you felt the power. Now, let’s get to it.
I remember the very first girl I ever took on a date. I’ll spare you the silly, gory details but it was not the stuff of legend. Nor was the second or the third or the… fiftieth. There were some great times along the way with many dates and some pretty terrible times. I shudder to think where I would be now had I attempted to engage any one of those early dates, particularly the first. I’m shuddering now! But how many times have you fallen in love with and married your first idea of many things? Like me, too many times, I fear.
Evidence supporting the “multiple ideas” superiority is all around us yet still we resist. Are you what you began to be when you were first a job seeker? Precious few persons are 20 years out. Would you consider buying the first house a real estate agent shows you, or would you prefer a few choices? We don’t need much convincing of the success of multiple ideas but still we yield to first ideas. First ideas are the junk foods in the decision world; we know they are bad for us but we have a hard time resisting.
· In a meeting, someone has an idea, BOOM, conversation ends.
· Considering supper, someone makes a suggestion, BOOM, conversation ends.
· In a conference, someone speaks up, and BOOM, conversation ends.
· Planning something, have an idea, BOOM, thought ends.
The power of the first idea is incredible. We seek that first idea like great hunters, patiently (?) waiting, watching, expecting, until it appears and then we pounce, triumphantly and finally. Experience shows that multiple ideas produce the best results in most, if not all, cases. So don’t marry that first idea. Date it, and four or five more ideas, and eventually one worth loving will come along. Have a wonderful week!