“The only man I know who behaves sensibly is my tailor; he takes my measurements anew each time he sees me. The rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.”
George Bernard Shaw
Good morning, friends! I hope your weekend was something special, or at least something good and new. Regardless, we have new ground to plow so let’s get to it!
A good friend once taught me that expectations are the thief of joy. Consider: two people experience a party. One expected more and so was disappointed. The other expected less and so was pleasantly pleased. Same party, different expectations, different outcomes. Our quote for today suggests that the only sensible expectation is the reality of the moment. I’m in love with that thought!
Why? Consider your own life. Was there a time in your life when you had an ability, or a gift, that is not quite the same now? I had a front row seat to my grandmother’s cooking skills when I was young. My earliest memory of her finds her at 56 or 57 years old and boy could she cook! It was a joy to eat at her home. In time the feasts became meals, and then snacks, and finally occasional treats. Was grandmother of any less value because she couldn’t meet the expectations of my youth? Not hardly, but what happens when you apply that reasoning to your own life? What are your expectations of yourself doing to you?
I’ll bet you still have some old measurements of yourself (not to speak of for other persons, too) that you’re still carrying around. Occasionally, like an old pair of pants you still have, you may try to struggle with an old expectation and realize that’s not you anymore. We’re back at the party, aren’t we? My goals for tomorrow and the rest of the year aren’t suitable for the old me; they only fit the current me. Perhaps your expectations need current-sizing, too.
·What’s an expectation of yourself that has lately been frustrating you?
·What would a current-sizing of that expectation look like?
·What can you do with a right-sized expectation?
We tend to recognize unsuitable expectations only when we bump against them and when they cause frustrations. Whenever you recognize yours ask yourself if it’s a right-sized expectation or not. It may be to ease the pain all you need is a re-measurement. Try it on! It will look great on you. Have a wonderful week.