“Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions.”
Good morning, friends! I hope you are well today and refreshed from a beautiful weekend. It’s the best week of the year for me, so let’s get to it!
Full disclosure: I knew of this quote from Nouwen long ago yet I saw it on the almighty Facebook this weekend and was inspired to use it. Thanks to my friend Joy for being insightful.
“Expect what you inspect.” That’s one of the pithy lessons I learned in my MBA education. When you manage persons you can expect to achieve whatever you inspect. Want clean floors? Inspect them. Want accurate money counts? Inspect them. Want anything? Inspect it. It’s not the best way to manage, I learned, but it is bluntly helpful. Expectations divorced from inspections are pretty worthless.
It can be a head rush to manage other persons effectively, to see great outcomes happen and to achieve consistent success. It’s a bit more challenging to manage oneself effectively. Might I suggest to you the blunt tool of self-inspections? Whatever questions you ask, monitor and evaluate of yourself will drive your behavior. Want to be healthier? Measure your calorie intake and exercise every single day. Want to read more? Measure your pages read every day. Want to engage more? Count your calls and visits with friends every day. It works.
But above all self-evaluative questions I affirm Nouwen’s list. These are the most (in my estimation) important questions. Imagine the person who acts in the ways of Nouwen’s questions. That’s the kind of person we all would love to know and most of us would love to be. Want to be that person? Ask and measure those questions every single day. It may be blunt but in short order you will be answering “Yes” to all these questions. And in time it will be said of you, “He/she is something incredible!” Expect and inspect wonderful things of yourself. Now that sounds pretty great to me! Just like you! Have a wonderful week, and if you are of the persuasion, Happy Easter!