“We are shaped and fashioned by what we love.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Good morning, friends! I hope your weekend, whether warm or chilly or down right cold, was somehow a blessing to you. We must make the best of things, you know? Let’s get to it!
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. If you have a spouse, special friend or partner and have forgotten be warned. It’s a special day! I can’t tell you how to celebrate it but I urge you to celebrate your spouse, special friend or partner and anybody else in your life with whom your connection is love. Just do it.
Goethe, one of the greatest philosophers ever known, hits the nail on the head with power in today’s quote. I can’t tell you how many times I fall into the trap of thinking that any love I show is a gift to someone. It seems so modern to think that if I’m loving “that person” then somehow I’m doing them a favor, giving them a blessing, poignantly sacrificing my precious self for “them”. Have you ever felt that way? It’s the dangerous road to viewing love as power.
Goethe sees love quite differently. Imagine if everything that you love (person, place, thing, attitude, emotion…everything) was each an article of clothing that must be worn every day. Whatever was true about the object of love would be worn on you for everyone to see. Some of the clothes would be beautiful and of the greatest quality. Some would be shabby; others would be trash worthy and still some, hopefully not too much, would be downright ugly and offensive. We would try to hide the less attractive clothes but occasionally they would be seen. And we can’t take them off. That’s what love does to us; it shapes, fashions and makes us.
If you’ve been thinking only about people, think again. It’s just as easy to love money, stuff, power, anger, image, etc. I could tell you to be careful with what you love but what good would that do? My best suggestion is to be aware of what you love and what it’s doing to you. Whatever you go to time after time is now more a part of you than you can imagine. Take stock and take control. Love is great, perhaps the greatest thing of all and it comes with a price. Pay yours carefully. Happy Valentine’s Day, friends, and have a great week!