“I forgive you. Now you forgive yourself.”
Good morning, friends. Have you washed away? I think I saw Noah’s ark this morning. Strange day indeed.
Have you ever been hit between the eyes by a comment? I’m not talking about political punditry or silly banter. I mean the genuine comments between honest people. Has one of those comments ever hit you right between the eyes?
I won’t go into the sordid details but last night I encountered a friend who I felt I had wronged. I stumbled and stammered to express my apology when my friend stopped me cold to express today’s quote. He could see the burden I was carrying for my guilt and shame and that whatever wrong I sensed I had done to him had multiplied into a heavy load of negativity on my back. As the bigger person he implored me to drop the load I carried. It was a powerful moment.
I wonder… are you carrying any loads of guilt or shame or self-recrimination? Too often the hardest and last person we forgive is oneself, yet only we pay for our lack of forgiveness. I was blessed by my friend’s generosity of spirit but how much more healthy would my life have been in the past few months if I had shown generosity of spirit to myself? How about you? Could you use a bit of generosity of spirit to yourself? I’ll bet you can.
Forgiving self isn’t to redefine right and wrong; it is to admit to self if wrong was done and to relieve oneself by forgiveness of the burden of guilt and shame. Could you use a bit less burden carrying in your life? I think we all can. Give it a try… forgive yourself. Everyone else who matters to you already has. And have a great week.