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Sunday, February 25 2018

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Monday, February 19 2018

“A life without a lonely place, that is, without a quiet center, becomes destructive.”

Henri Nouwen

Good morning, friends, or afternoon, if that’s when this note hits you.  I hope you had a great weekend.  Perhaps you got energized by Olympic curling.  It’s wild, isn’t it?  Let’s calm down and get to it.

In my line of work I have a constant opponent: loneliness.  Senior adults, particularly single senior adults, battle loneliness most minutes of every day.  A recent wildly popular article in the Boston Globe magazine was titled, “The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness.”  Loneliness is a real problem, devastatingly so, and I would not suggest otherwise.  But I do think it’s a problem with a bit of misunderstanding.  We all need a little loneliness on a regular basis.

Stephen Covey touched a real nerve in the country with his 1989 book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.”  People clamored to understand and apply his teachings to chase effectiveness in their lives.  All the lessons are simple (not simplistic, though).  The final capstone lesson is “Sharpen the Saw”.  To be effective one must take care of oneself.  If one runs headlong with the first six lessons, chasing success with every ounce of energy, eventually the well runs dry.  You cannot burn a candle at both ends and expect it to last long.  Yet how many times do we attempt that very thing in our actions, choices and lives?

Loneliness isn’t the problem; extended and/or uncontrolled loneliness is.  In my own life I call it “down time”.  I tend to run at full speed as long as I can and then my body or mind tells me, “No more.”  I need a break: no work, no chores, no expectations, no responsibilities, no nothing.  Perhaps just a day.  Sometimes my family has to pick up the slack; often when they need a break I do the same for them.  If our lives are active we need a bit of loneliness once in a while just for energy’s sake.

·          When your energy is waning do you seek a bit of loneliness?

·          What is a new way you could risk loneliness for a while to re-energize?

·          How could you spend “alone time” to make it restfully effective?

We are advised to rotate our mattresses to keep them “fresh”.  We are advised to change the oil in our cars every 5K miles to keep the care running smooth.  We are advised have a yearly check up with our doctor to maintain optimal health.  I advise you to be occasionally lonely to maintain your energy and sanity.  If it gets momentum and carries on then call me.  I’ll break the cycle for you!  Give it a try, and have a wonderful week.

Matthew 14:13-24

Posted by: Pastor Thomas AT 07:10 pm   |  Permalink   |  Email
Monday, February 12 2018

“Here’s the thing no one tells you about the saying “go big or go home”: Most people who go big swiftly end up at home.”

Brad Stulberg

Good morning, friends!  I hope you had a wonderful weekend.  Is it winter?  Is it spring?  Is it summer?  Who knows!  All I know is it’s time to get going.  Let’s get to it.

One of the conundrums I’ve encountered in recent years is that it’s not fair to say change is hard but it’s equally untrue to say change is easy.   Change is something very difficult to describe.  Babies are a state of constant change while adults gradually change less and less.  Is it easy for babies and harder for adults?  Or is the matter less about ease v. difficulty and more about mindfulness and process?  Babies aren’t “good” at change; they simply don’t overcomplicate it.

My wife and I have progressed through a number of the parenting challenges by now and one of the bears was teaching our kids how to ride a bike.  Perhaps we started too late or didn’t have the knowledge base but it was not easy.  They can all ride very well now, as to be expected, but I wish it had been easier.  Now I know it could have been.  Have you ever heard of a glider?  It’s a bicycle with no gears or pedals, just two wheels on a frame with a seat and handlebar.  Get a small one, let a two or three-year-old kid stride it and naturally learn to glide developing balance.  Then the child will naturally embrace pedals and gears in the desire to go faster.  No teaching involved, just a natural progression.  So what change in your life have you over thought, bypassing a natural progression?

·     Maybe you want to be healthier and/or lose weight.  You’ve bought into the big picture image of magazines and commercials and are stymied.  Don’t over think it; just eat healthier and move some today.  Change will come.

·     Maybe you want a new or better job.  You have envisioned the life you want to live and don’t see the map to get there.  Don’t over think it; get your resume together today or make a contact today.  Change will come.

·     Maybe you have a relationship problem.  You remember how great it used to be and wish it could be again.  Don’t over think it; connect today with no expectations and make a plan to do it again.  Change will come.

As much as we gripe about change we all do it enough.  Easy changes or the ones we want to do that are relatively easy we accomplish mindlessly.  When the change is big or necessary but undesired we engage the mind and that’s not always great.  The path of success is as simple as the next step.  Nothing lies beyond that step until it’s taken.  Stop overcomplicating and over thinking your changes.  Take the next step and change will come.  I have faith you can do it!  Have a great week.

Mark 10:46-52

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Monday, February 05 2018

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