"Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway."
Good morning, friends! Was it frosty when you got up this morning? Boo chilly where I am! It must be Thanksgiving! Let’s get to it.
Making decisions is hard. I know, and I’m a trained decision maker. Although we tend to think that all decisions are “yes or no” or “right or wrong” in fact most decisions have more flavor and nuance. Imagine, for example, making decisions with incomplete and imperfect information. No fun, that’s for sure.
But what if the decision is yours to make, all yours, and your information is complete and perfect and your direction is clear? Seems simple enough, right? Perhaps it’s a simple “yes or no” or “right or wrong” and the choice is clear. Anybody can do that, right? Yet then comes the greatest challenge of all to decision making: peer pressure. What will “somebody” think, or say, or do if I make “that” decision? Peer pressure isn’t just a kid’s game; it affects all of us.
I don’t think First Lady Roosevelt is suggesting we live in isolation. Who could imagine making decisions without consideration for their family? Her wisdom seems to suggest we not cast the peer pressure net too widely. Decision making is hard but it becomes exponentially harder when we bring too many interests and perspectives to bear. Trust yourself. Trust your instincts. Trust your heart. Make your decision with your small net in mind, and then take action. There’s nothing you can do about the attitudes outside your net.
What decisions are you hesitating on because of peer pressure? Which ones are clear inside your net but cloudy outside the net? Make your decisions; action is what you need. And you’ll get no criticism from me! Happy Thanksgiving, friends, and have a wonderful week.