Monday, February 24 2014
It takes real self forgiveness, self nurturing and acceptance that we are and never will be whatever “perfect” is supposed to mean. We are here to be our best selves, that is perfect enough.
— Giselle Fernandez
Greetings, friends! I hope all is well with you today. Are you thankful for anything in particular this morning? I am.
Our quote this week speaks to the childhood of us all. Who among us did not hear encouragements to "do your best"? Who ever regularly does their best? Who did not hear encouragements to be first, or to accept nothing less than excellent, or to do "better"? I'm sure the spirit of encouragement was paramount in all those platitudes, but too often what we hear are encouragements to be something other than ourselves. Guilt, as I continue to learn in my old age, is an insidious projection, yet how many of us carry in our hearts anything less than guilt for our failures to be "perfect"? When I was a child the ever-present cure-all for all maladies was merthiolate, that orange paint that covered so much of me. We know now that the mercury in merthiolate was more damaging than helpful. Is that also true for the platitudes of our lives, that we might bear the burdens of guilt for failing to be other than ourselves? Forgiveness and acceptance seem to be excellent medicines for the wounds and scars we don't deserve in our lives. It is true that all of us have room for improvement, that each of us has area for growth, but guilt is more of a roadblock to growth than an encouragement. Forgive yourselves for whatever are your perceived failings; accept yourselves for who you in fact are. Look at yourself and ask, "Who or what do I want to be?" and then take one bold step in that direction. You are wonderful, and greater things are possible for you. Nothing else needs to be known. Do you feel encouraged today? Are you carrying some negative baggage from your past? Would you like to be free? I know you would, and you are free in my eyes. Be free in your own eyes, and have a great week.
Monday, February 17 2014
Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.
Good morning, friends! I hope you're snow-free today! What a week it was. I've had my fill of snow for the year. Bring on Spring!
It's not often I give my quotes over to movie characters, but how could I do better than Yoda? He is a powerful speaker of deep truth, and today is no different. Were you a fan of Star Wars? From the very beginning I loved Yoda, perhaps because he spoke simple, powerful truth even I could understand as a child, then youth, and now adult. Just look at the truth in this quote. Yoda calls anger, hate and suffering the dark side of life, and I agree. When has anger, hate and/or suffering ever been a good experience, part of the light, of your life? I imagine we could agree that we would all prefer to live lives without anger, hate and suffering. Yet how many of us in agreement are willing to address the fears in our lives that lead us down the dark side of life? When I'm honest with myself (are you with you?) I admit I have fears, simple and complex. And it is out of these fears that I experience anger, hate and suffering, among other dark experiences. How about you? Whole industries have been created to address the symptoms of anger, hate and suffering, but what if we dealt with the root, called fear? What if facing our fears could alleviate anger, hate and suffering in our lives? Who's in? Me! How about you? Can you name your fears that drive your life? Can you work backwards from your angers, hates and sufferings to find the roots of fear? Are you willing to address the fears to create a better, more light filled, life? I know you want to, and I believe you, and I, can. Let's do it! I have faith in both of us! See you next week.
Monday, February 10 2014
Take a moment and simply observe your breath... We can live without food and water for days or weeks, but only a few moments without our breath.
Greetings, friends! Are you ready for another round of Snowmageddon? Why do people who never drink milk rush to the grocery store and buy two gallons at the hint of snow? It boggles the mind!
This week's thought is nearly a parable. On the surface it seems simple, childishly simple. Yet with a bit of thought there is a depth to it that can stir powerful awareness. Breath falls into that category of things about which most of us never think; we simply do, or receive, or experience. My kids don't think about food; they simply show up and eat. I don't think about gas for my car; I simply show up at the gas station and fill up. As adults we lull ourselves into thoughtless existence without consideration for things that really matter. Scarcity makes things matter again. In the 70's we had a gas crisis, with long lines at gas stations and supply rationing. We thought a lot about gas in those days. Not so much anymore. People who struggle for subsistence and experience food scarcity think about food a lot. And people with asthma, or chronic lung issues, think about breathing a lot. Scarcity makes things relevant, and scarcity also prioritizes relevant things. In our lives of abundance we tend to prioritize irrelevant things, things that scarcity throws to the trash heap, yet we scream in agony when our irrelevant things seem scarce. We deceive ourselves; true scarcity prioritizes relevant things. What irrelevant things are you prioritizing in your life? What relevant things do you need to prioritize to bring peaceful harmony back to your life? Can you do it before scarcity makes you do it? I'll bet you can, and I believe in you. See you next week.